All I can say is that it is good to talk and important to talk openly and frankly. it doesn't really matter who to, but its the first big step to getting through it.

Get well soon buddy

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Hope it goes ok Chuckalicious.

Apparently the stress my wife was subjected to at work was affecting the way she was looking at things in everyday life, and this is what the counselling sessions turned around.

Iain

I was suffering stress due to work pressures for some time but didn't know it. It came to a head in 2010 when, after 15 years my employer (a training charity) started treating me very badly and I had a mini-breakdown while away on a weekend break in Jersey at just the thought of returning to work. I jacked the job in on the Monday morning and the bastards had their premises repossessed that afternoon. Done myself out of 15 years redundancy (which I now know was their plan) but I had the last laugh though because I took on premises of my own, employed all my work colleagues and took ALL of their business which they were hoping to keep in different premises. I must admit that before I even started on my own which was a couple of months after I left, the stress was lifted almost the minute I resigned. I went to my doctor who said he could prescribe drugs but that I may be on them for sometime. He recommended long walks, freah air and excercise which was the option I took.

Thanks everyone. Interesting to hear your stories. I keep writing stuff then deleting it because it just seems so complicated. I hope I manage to get it all out coherently next week.

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Couldn’t afford the fuel bills so back to an older Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Significantly better than I remembered it to be…

What I did, was take the wife to the quak, for me when I was there I new I would play things down
The wife would be more honest 2008 xs
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I've been to the bottom, where I was looking at reasons to live. I cried like a baby at the Dr's when telling him how I felt. I was referred to a specialist and given medication. This helped a great deal. I had tried manning up for years and funnily enough it does not work. I listened to Jeremy Vine on the radio discussing depression. I sat crying in the car, recognising a lot of the symptoms. I still delayed going to the Dr as I thought I would be wasting his time. I think it was another year of suffering.

You are not alone. I found that many of my friends had been to the same place and could recognise the symptoms in me. When I told people I found it was a weight off my back. They were all supportive, though my boss did ask if he caused it. Looking back that was funny. I guess the sight of three large blokes having a group hug outside a pub in the December rain crying was also odd. We'd all been there and were still battling through.

Do not feel people will judge you, depression is an illness, a horrible evil vile illness which can hit anybody.

I hope it all works out for you. Be honest with yourself and the Doc about how you feel.

Regards.

Gav.

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jings, thanks Gav. Sounds tough. Thank you for sharing. I am surprised how many people on here have been touched by this kind of thing. Thank you all for sharing. FL2 TD4 GS 60 reg Facelift - so many issues
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Now greatly regret selling the Outlander. MPG of the FL2 is atrocious and so are the fuel bills. Fun though 😎
Couldn’t afford the fuel bills so back to an older Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Significantly better than I remembered it to be…

I live with this with my Wife, some 7 years ago (She was in a high pressure high reward job) She was verbally assaulted by
another member of staff. This caused her to have a complete breakdown some weeks later.

This cost her, her job and career and she had to be medically retired and was given her pension early. Do not dismiss anything and take all the help you can get and if you feel any medications are not working get back on to your GP. Also as said Counselling works wonders as well.

Can I also say that if you are suffering then those close to will also be suffering so the sooner your on the mend so they will be.

Best of luck,

Ian.

Thanks Ian. Yes, this is tough in my wife too and also my kids who I look after full time so I know I have to deal with this now.

Sorry to hear about your wife, that sounds awful and so unfair. FL2 TD4 GS 60 reg Facelift - so many issues
2019 DS. Terribly unreliable.
Sold DS for a 2021 Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Fingers crossed....
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Now greatly regret selling the Outlander. MPG of the FL2 is atrocious and so are the fuel bills. Fun though 😎
Couldn’t afford the fuel bills so back to an older Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Significantly better than I remembered it to be…

At least you have recognized there is a problem, that is the first and hardest step to take.


My Wife's situation was a nightmare, Her union were as much use as an ash tray on a speed boat. The employer (HSBC) tried everything to brush it under the carpet. They paid for various consultations with specialist but each time the report and diagnosis came back to the same thing, that the workplace incident was the root cause of the illness and irreparable damage had been done as a result of it.

She is happy now thankfully although still dependent on the medication.

I look forward to reading some good news very soon.

Ian.

So, went to the docs this morning. Thankfully she was very open and listened and has diagnosed depression and anxiety. Short term is medication to try and up the mood stability but has suggested that we look into psych services to work alongside the drugs. Long waiting lists though.

Felt good to get it out in the open and to give it a name. FL2 TD4 GS 60 reg Facelift - so many issues
2019 DS. Terribly unreliable.
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Sold Outlander for a 2014 SD4 SE Tech because I’m mental
Now greatly regret selling the Outlander. MPG of the FL2 is atrocious and so are the fuel bills. Fun though 😎
Couldn’t afford the fuel bills so back to an older Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Significantly better than I remembered it to be…

Think of it as the start of the pathway to feeling better, in fact by seeking assistance you're a few steps further along it already  Former Mod/Member, with the most post & Chicken George Arch nemesis

Funnily enough I just said those exact words npinks.

Little scared of the pills though what with all the suicide risk warnings. FL2 TD4 GS 60 reg Facelift - so many issues
2019 DS. Terribly unreliable.
Sold DS for a 2021 Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Fingers crossed....
Sold Outlander for a 2014 SD4 SE Tech because I’m mental
Now greatly regret selling the Outlander. MPG of the FL2 is atrocious and so are the fuel bills. Fun though 😎
Couldn’t afford the fuel bills so back to an older Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. Significantly better than I remembered it to be…

My mother worked in psychiatry. She suggested these two books are a good source of information;

http://www.humangivens.com/onlineshop/books/

They explain the symptoms which I appreciate must be terrible. Also google "mindfulness". It sounds very "new age" but it is a simple but powerful technique that you can do at any time. I run training courses and use it from time to time when life gets too hectic and I need to clear my mind.